Once you have got over the initial shock and excitement of being engaged and you’ve finished celebrating with friends and family it’s time to get started planning your dream wedding. So get a bottle of bubbly in the fridge, turn the TV off and sit down with your partner and we’ll talk you through the questions you need to ask each other to plan your dream wedding and make sure you both get what you want.
What kind of wedding do you want?
This may sound like a simple question but it’s one that is completely loaded. And while you may have dreamed of a church wedding all your life your other
half may have different ideas. From deciding what type of ceremony you want – church or civil, to the reception afterwards there are a lot of important
questions you need to ask each other to help plan your dream wedding. If you're in need of some inspiration, check out our last blog 'The Ten Best Wedding Venues in Sussex'.
Church wedding or civil ceremony?
If you’re having a church wedding are you both the same religion? Do you have your heart set on your local church or does it depend on the reception venue?
For a civil ceremony are you thinking of the local registry office or do you have a venue in mind? Do you want to get married outdoors or have an indoor
ceremony? Asking these questions will help you decide what’s important to you both.
Wedding reception – small and intimate or bigger is better?
Some couples may want a small and intimate wedding ceremony while others may want hundreds of guests. Thinking of the numbers early on will help you find the right wedding venue to cater to your needs as well as setting your budget.
What is your wedding budget?
How much do you want to spend? This really depends on what your priorities are, if you want a fancy wedding with all the trimmings then expect to spend north of £25K while if you’re happy with something a bit smaller and more intimate then you could be spending less than £10K. Ultimately it will come down to what you can afford and how much financial help you will be getting from your parents. Some of the questions you need to ask to plan your budget include:
Who do you want to invite?
One of the biggest factors that will affect your budget is the number of guests you will have at your wedding. From relatives and work colleagues to school friends, your wedding guest list can become a minefield that can quickly escalate out of control. Do you really need to invite your great aunty Mildred who you haven’t seen in 15 years? Are you really that close to your manager at work that you want to share your big day with them? It can be hard but this is where you need to be realistic and prioritise.
What’s your dream venue?
Do you want a country manor house hotel, a romantic castle or just a function room in your local pub? The wedding venue is likely to be one of the biggest costs both in terms of hire and food and drink. The bigger and more luxurious the venue, the more expensive the cost per head is likely to be.
When do you want to get married?
Do you have a particular date in mind, a time of year or are you completely flexible. If you are looking at venues in peak season – the summer months of
June, July and August, then you’ll need to act early to book your dream venue as they can book out up to two years in advance for prime summer dates.
Prices will also generally be a lot higher during peak months meaning that if you’re willing to look outside of these then you could bag yourself a
With these questions answered you should both have a better idea of what the other wants for your wedding. From ceremony and reception to guest numbers and dates, deciding on these details early on will help you get what you want from your big day.
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